We often believe that in order to know what we want, we need to accumulate more—more knowledge, more experiences, more advice. However, understanding what we truly want sometimes requires us to let go rather than add more to our lives. Holding onto unnecessary beliefs, habits, and fears can cloud our vision, making it difficult to hear our true desires. In order to find clarity, I must release the things that hold me back.

First, letting go of perfectionism is essential. Perfectionism tricks me into thinking that if everything isn’t flawless, then it’s not good enough. This mindset can be paralyzing, preventing me from taking action, exploring new opportunities, or accepting that mistakes are part of growth. When I let go of perfectionism, I embrace the idea that “done” is often better than “perfect,” allowing myself to move forward without the fear of not meeting impossible standards.

Next, I must learn to release the need for external validation. So much of what I think I want may be shaped by societal expectations, the opinions of others, or a desire for approval. However, true satisfaction comes from internal alignment. Letting go of the need for constant validation helps me focus on what truly matters to me, rather than what I think will make others happy. Only when I stop seeking approval can I start to tune into my own voice.

Finally, I need to let go of overthinking and the constant worry about the future. Overthinking often leads to indecision, which leaves me stuck. Letting go of the urge to control every outcome and predict every scenario opens up space for spontaneity, creativity, and discovery. Sometimes, I must trust that even if I don’t know exactly what I want right now, the journey of exploration will reveal it to me.

Letting go isn’t easy—it requires courage and vulnerability. But only when I release the weight of what’s holding me back can I start to see clearly what I truly want. In the process, I gain a sense of peace, clarity, and self-understanding that I could never find by holding on too tightly.

In the end, true freedom comes when I release control and allow life to unfold naturally.